Emotional Intelligence: To Win Over The Opponent, One Must Think Like The Opponent


success-eiEmotional Intelligence - the ability to interpret, evaluate and effectively address the relationship between our motivations and decisions, including recognizing our tendency to relieve cognitive dissonance with rationalization.

Our initial instinct, when it comes to transmitting information and expecting it to directly affect recipients, is to give people facts and assume they will arrive *through reason* at the correct decision or behavior. However, research has shown that this approach isn’t very effective. It’s very difficult to change a person’s mind/behavior just by making a rational argument. You will find that their behavior is still overwhelmed by their beliefs and emotions.

The alleged “scared straight” approach is only minimally effective at best, as opposed to targeting emotional underpinnings supporting motivations. That being said, even… Continue reading

Speaking out and listening: The complexities of male feminism


male-feminismThis guest column is written by Matthew Facciani, Psychological Statistics instructor at the University of South Carolina, Senior Scientific Advisor for “Young Men 4 Gender Equality” and Co-Chair with the Secular Coalition for South Carolina.


What is feminism?

A feminist is simply someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes. Feminism strives to allow people to live freely regardless of gender. Some may feel like feminism is obsolete, but unfortunately we still need feminism as widespread gender inequality exists even today. Men who are aware of these systemic inequalities may wonder how they can promote feminist goals. I do believe that men can be great assets to the feminist movement because they offer a unique perspective. From my experiences,… Continue reading

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